Good self-help books have two important qualities. Firstly, they should explain things in a simple, clear and engaging way. They should help us to understand ourselves in a whole new light. This can be a very reassuring experience. Hopefully we will find out that we are not ‘crazy’ and that that other ‘normal’ people also experience these problems and also that they can get better.
Have you ever wondered what is behind the saying, “Spend your money on experiences, not things?” It’s an interesting idea that runs counter to common sense because, as we know, things last longer than experiences. For example, whilst your holiday can be over and done with in a fortnight, a new settee or pair of shoes will last for ages! However, it doesn’t work like that in practice.
We all know that stress can be bad for our health. Not a day goes by without another news story telling us that it can cause a host of ailments such as, auto-immune problems, cardiovascular disease and premature ageing.
It has been said that if you want to be successful then we have to find a way to do things even when we don’t feel like doing them. So, we may want to exercise, or study, or finish our work, or do the dishes, (the list is endless); but we just don’t feel like doing it.
As a therapist I often hear people complain about their partners. They say things like, “We just don’t have anything in common. We are basically incompatible”. Many of us will have had similar thoughts at some point in our lives. But is there any such thing as a compatible couple?
Do you ever find negative thoughts popping into your mind? Thoughts like, “I am a loser, nothing I do ever works out”, or “No-one takes me seriously”. It is quite normal for people to have these kinds of negative judgemental thoughts – but they can be especially troublesome for people who are anxious or depressed.
It may be confusing but there are a number of different types of psychological therapy. Many people have heard of counselling and cognitive behaviour therapy. Another exciting therapy that is gaining popularity has the long winded title of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Mostly, it is called ACT for short, (as in the word ‘act’).
Every month in Cornwall, just under 1,500 people are referred (or refer themselves) to NHS funded psychological therapy services. These are people who may feel they are struggling with low mood, are overly anxious or just generally ‘stressed out’.