As Christmas approaches, we are reminded that not only is it a time for family and giving, but it is also a time when many people may feel a sense of isolation and loneliness. The John Lewis ad tugs at our heart-strings with the story of a young girl sending a message to a lonely old man on the moon.
Mindfulness has been shown to increase our resilience to stress and it can be an effective treatment for depression. So, what is it all about? It sounds mysterious but it is, in fact, very simple. Basically, it involves becoming quiet and focusing on just one thing at a time. You can try the following mindful eating exercise as an example.
Around 6,000 people in Cornwall will have a fairly severe type of anxiety called panic disorder. What is panic disorder? Imagine for a moment, if you can, that it is possible that you will have an experience of utter dread and fear whenever you venture far from the house.
As Dr Phil is fond of saying, “Life is not the pizza man – it doesn’t deliver”. We all know that we get out of life what we put into it. If you want to improve your physical and mental well-being you might want to explore the following steps.
Every one of us is a ‘work in progress’. We move slowly but surely through our lives and change is inevitable. Without doubt some people seem to have a better handle on the direction they are going in, and their life changes for the better. However, others get stuck in the daily grind and their life stutters and stalls.
The brain is a truly wonderful organ. However, sometimes it can over-do things. Due to the need to survive it can be a little over-zealous in predicting possible dangers. This is what happens when we worry too much.
No-one is surprised to hear that modern living seems to be increasing our rate of stress and depression. Many people point to the relentless pace of life and the constant bombardment of information. We also stress ourselves by comparing ourselves with one another.
Health anxiety, which used to be called hypochondriasis, is where people have an overwhelming fear or conviction that they have symptoms of a serious illness, such as cancer. Around five to ten thousand people in Cornwall will have this problem.
Life is a journey with ups and downs. But our brains tend to focus on the downs. That’s because we have evolved to spot potential danger. So we see the downs more quickly and think longer and harder about them.
Anxiety problems affect one in ten of us, and can play havoc with living a normal life. So, it isn’t a surprise to hear that many people with anxiety problems are worried that they may pass this problem onto their children. They know only too well the distress it causes, and the last thing they want is to see their children ‘copying’ their fears.
We often hear about acts of forgiveness on the news. Some extraordinary people proclaim forgiveness for others who have committed heinous crimes against them. Forgiveness appears to be a noble and deeply moral thing to do. And then there’s also a lot of psychological research saying that forgiveness is associated with better physical and mental health and lower levels of depression.
“With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world”. This famous line from the Desiderata illustrates the fairly obvious point that the world can be seen in positive or negative ways. Which one do you tend to focus on? Well, many of us often tend to focus on the negative.
Research has shown that the first three minutes of conversation with your partner will pretty much guarantee how it will end. Start off with all guns blazing and you are likely to have a pretty heated argument that is destined to end badly. Psychologists call this a “Harsh Startup”.