The world of psychology is overflowing with literature on how to live a good life and be happy. Who doesn’t want to be happy? The problem is that often people look in the wrong places. For example, many people think that the road to happiness involves great achievement, in either academic performance or in their career.
The brain is a phenomenal problem-solving machine. It will work on problems even when you aren’t aware that this is happening. How many times have you experienced an idea popping into your mind that provides a perfect answer to a problem you have been wrestling with. Our subconscious mind constantly churns over problems.
This week I found myself driving in the crowded congestion of the M6 motorway. I had a long drive ahead of me and found myself quietly fuming at the constant stopping and starting of traffic. As the minutes went by I started cursing the modern overcrowded state of our motorways.
An old saying goes, “Listen carefully to how a person speaks about other people to you.
When people become depressed they also tend to suffer with sleeplessness. For years, the standard view was that the depression caused the sleep problem. However, more recent studies suggest that the relationship works both ways – depression influences sleep problems and at the same time these sleep problems can fuel further depression.
Is your glass half-empty or half-full? Many psychologists believe that your answer to this question depends on what you regularly focus on. If you routinely focus on negative things and complain about them then, no surprises here, you will be a grouch. And you will never run out of things to complain about.
One thing that is certain in life is that it is very uncertain!
Nobody truly knows for sure what life is going to hold, and it is this concept of life being uncertain that forms the basis of many anxiety problems – especially generalised anxiety disorder (GAD).
At work, do you ever feel that everyone else seems to know exactly what they need to do whilst you are floundering? In the 1970’s psychological research identified a common experience that creates significant anxiety and unease, particularly in the workplace.
Modern life can be exhausting. Trying to create greater calm is the antidote. But this antidote doesn’t happen by itself. We have to actively cultivate it.
A subtle but powerful shift in our mind-set could help us get a better night’s sleep. Research data tells us that about 30% of us get less than six hours sleep every night. This is linked to an increased risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity.
The research of the American Professor, Carol Dweck, suggests that there are two fundamental approaches which we can use when we encounter difficult learning or life challenges. One of these approaches will serve you well and carry you to many successes in life. The other will keep you stuck.
We all worry if we catch ourselves talking to ourselves. It’s said to be the first step to madness. But, in a recent article in the Harvard Business Review, leadership experts Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman propose that, in some contexts, talking aloud to yourself can be really helpful.